Shoulds, Musts & Coulds
How many times a day do you hear others use the words “should”, “must” and “could" or "ought”? What about catching yourself using them out loud or internally with the internal noise dialog created within? I wonder about the worries we create ourselves using such words. What if the “shoulds” were replaced with “what if”, the “musts” with “perhaps” and the “coulds” with “maybe”, how would simple replacing change our moods, stress and thinking patterns?
I caught myself this morning, beginning my morning with, “I should go to the gym” and then swiftly change it to, “I could go to the gym”. After all, I am really the only one who cares if I go or not.
Ponder how the shift of words changes outcomes and trigger various types of feelings.
- “Angie worked hard to support the development of a learning programme and worked closely with both the sponsors and myself to ensure a successful delivery. I found her to be enthusiastic with lots of ideas and materials to offer for the topics at hand. She was instrumental in providing learning materials for our collaboration area. All in all, I don’t think the kick off of the learning programme and event would have been as successful without her input.”Lucy Sell
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