Shoulds, Musts & Coulds
How many times a day do you hear others use the words “should”, “must” and “could” or “ought”? What about catching yourself using them out loud or internally with the internal noise dialog created within? I wonder about the worries we create ourselves using such words. What if the “shoulds” were replaced with “what if”, the “musts” with “perhaps” and the “coulds” with “maybe”, how would simple replacing change our moods, stress and thinking patterns?
I caught myself this morning, beginning my morning with, “I should go to the gym” and then swiftly change it to, “I could go to the gym”. After all, I am really the only one who cares if I go or not.
Ponder how the shift of words changes outcomes and trigger various types of feelings.
- “In working with Angie, I believe that she is exceptional and consistently goes far beyond what I would expect from her and what I have experienced with people who have consuted before. Her passion for delivering the best for the people and the business, and in a way that gives us cost effective, sustainable and repeatable solutions is great. This passion also extends with all engagement with the people she meets and supports- this alignment I believe is what makes her exceptional.”Rob Cross
Leadership & Graduate Development Lead
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